All Hallows Evening Prayer for Wednesday Evening (August 10, 2022)


PROCLAMATION OF THE LIGHT

One or more candles may be lit.

Watch and be ready, for you do not know on what day our Lord is coming. Matthew 24:42, 44

EVENING HYMN

Open this link in a new tab to hear F. Bland Tucker’s translation of the Phos hilaron, “O Gracious Light.”

O Gracious Light, Lord Jesus Christ,
In you the Father’s glory shone.
Immortal, holy, blest is he,
And blest are you, his holy Son.

Now sunset comes, but light shines forth,
the lamps are lit to pierce the night.
Praise Father, Son, and Spirit: God
Who dwells in the eternal light.

Worthy are you of endless praise,
O Son of God, Life-giving Lord;
Wherefore you are through all the earth
And in the highest heaven adored.

O Gracious Light!


PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING

Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.
It is right to give our thanks and praise.

Blessed are you, O Lord our God, ruler of the universe!
Your word brings on the dusk of evening,
your wisdom creates both night and day.
You determine the cycles of time,
arrange the succession of seasons,
and establish the stars in their heavenly courses.
Lord of the starry hosts is your name.
Living and eternal God, rule over us always.
Blessed be the Lord, whose word makes evening fall.
Amen.

HYMN OF THE DAY

Open this link in a new tab to hear Geoffrey Peterson’s choral anthem, “What Does the Lord Require of You.”

What does the Lord require of you?
What does the Lord require of you?
What does the Lord require of you?
What does the Lord require of you?
To do justice, to love kindness, and
and walk humbly,
and walk humbly with your God.
To do justice, to do justice,
to love kindness,
and walk humbly with your God,
walk humbly with your God,
walk humbly with your God.

SCRIPTURE

Luke 12:41-48 Jesus answers a question from Peter.

Peter asked, “Lord, is that illustration just for us or for everyone?”

And the Lord replied, “A faithful, sensible servant is one to whom the master can give the responsibility of managing his other household servants and feeding them. If the master returns and finds that the servant has done a good job, there will be a reward. I tell you the truth, the master will put that servant in charge of all he owns. But what if the servant thinks, ‘My master won’t be back for a while,’ and he begins beating the other servants, partying, and getting drunk? The master will return unannounced and unexpected, and he will cut the servant in pieces and banish him with the unfaithful.

“And a servant who knows what the master wants, but isn’t prepared and doesn’t carry out those instructions, will be severely punished. But someone who does not know, and then does something wrong, will be punished only lightly. When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.

Silence

May your word live in us
and bear much fruit to your glory

HOMILY

Called to Be Just

At the end of last year, the US Surgeon General declared a “devastating” national mental health crisis. What once appeared to affect only a part of the US population is now affecting just about the whole population one way or another. Almost every American has experienced emotional distress in the last few years or knows someone who has. Young people have been particularly affected by this crisis.

One of the reasons that children and adults experience emotional distress in their lives is the expectations and boundaries that they must negotiate in their relationships with others, especially those who play a significant role in their lives.

Some parents will be unclear in conveying their expectations to their child and then punish a child harshly for failing to meet these expectations. They are essentially setting up their child to fail by not being specific about how they expect the child to act, assuming that the child should know what their expectations are.

Children, however, are not telepathic and they do not know what is in their parent’s mind.

The tendency of parents to not make their expectations clear to a child, to have unrealistic expectations, to not set reasonable limits, and to respond in an unkind or severe way when a child does not conform to their unstated expectations or comply with their strict or excessive limits is recognized by psychologists as a form of emotional abuse and can cause anxiety, insecurity, low self-esteem, and a poor self-image in the child. It can be accompanied by physical abuse of the child.

The same kind of thing can happen in adult relationships whether the individuals involved in the relationship are spouses, romantic partners, or friends, when they fail to communicate their expectations and boundaries to each other. They may assume that the other person should know what these expectations and boundaries are.

However, in real life it is unrealistic to make such assumptions. Other people are not going to know what our expectations and boundaries are unless we tell them, unless we clearly communicate these expectations and boundaries to them. This is why open communication in relationships is so important.

Leaving someone with whom we have a relationship to guess what our expectations and boundaries are and then becoming angry or upset with them because they do meet our expectations or overstep our boundaries is as in the parent-child relationship a form of emotional abuse. The person who acts this way may not realize it because they themselves have been treated in the same way.

A person whose parents were not clear in conveying expectations and establishing boundaries may internalize their parents’ attitudes and behavior and do the same thing to other people, including their children, when they become an adult. Uncommunicated or hidden expectations and unstated boundaries can create serious problems in a relationship.

Individuals whose parents were not clear in conveying expectations and establishing boundaries and who have internalized their parents’ attitudes and behavior may act this way not only in personal relationships but also in church and work relationships.

For this reason, it is a good idea when having a conference with a team member or the whole team a team leader should clearly communicate expectations to that member or the team, make certain that they understand and agree to the expectations, and memorialize the meeting in writing.

This was standard practice in the state agency in which I worked where Periodic Performance Evaluations, or PPEs, were conducted with each worker and the worker’s strengths and the areas where they need improvement were identified, and specific goals for improvement were developed with the worker in these areas. These goals were put in writing, signed by the supervisor and the worker, and a copy of the agreed-upon goals given to the worker. At the next PPE the worker’s progress toward these goals was an important part of the performance evaluation process.

A similar practice was followed with the agency’s clients. The worker developed a case plan with the client, identify their strengths, the areas where they needed to make improvement, specific goals, and the tasks they need to complete to achieve these goals. This case plan was signed by all involved in its development, including the client, a copy was filed in the client’s case folder and a copy was provided to the client. The case plan was useful tool in helping the client make the needed improvements. It outlined a clear path that client needed to take to make such improvements.

At the next PPE and the next periodic case review the worker or client was not confronted with uncommunicated or hidden expectations that they had failed to meet, expectations that they were assumed that they should have known.

One thing that I learned as a case worker was to never assume anything and to always be explicit in stating what were the court’s expectations, agency’s expectations, and my own expectations as a client’s caseworker.

Misunderstandings can develop easily and quickly. The clients with whom I was working were experiencing significant emotional distress and were in a state of disequilibrium. They could not be relied upon to fully hear and understand what I was saying, much less to guess what I was thinking.

In a relationship we may not want to go far as draw up a contract, or a written agreement, outlining what our mutual expectations and boundaries are but we do need to clearly communicate to each other what they are. Some couple and family therapists do recommend that a couple or family make a contract, particularly if the couple or family has frequent misunderstandings.

It is not right or reasonable for someone to treat someone else in an unkind or severe way for not meeting an expectation or for overstepping a boundary if they had not communicated the expectation or boundary to that person.

It is certainly not healthy behavior when an individual has a pattern of repeatedly failing to communicate expectations and boundaries to someone else and then expressing anger and disapproval toward that person directly or indirectly when they do not meet an expectation or overstep a boundary. They may be harboring feelings of anger and resentment toward that person, which they do not feel justified in expressing unless that person in some way gives them justification for expressing these feelings.

These feelings may have nothing to do with that person but may stem from a past relationship. Outside their conscious awareness they may associate that person with a parental figure or some other person in that past relationship. On the other hand, the personality traits and attitudes of that person may trigger such feelings.

In today’s reading, Luke 12:41-48, Jesus in answering Peter’s question points to his attention that a servant who knows what his master wants from him but who does not carry out his master’s instructions can be held to a much stricter accounting than the servant who does not know what his master expects from him and does something wrong. The master would not be unfair in severely punishing the servant who knows what his master wants from him. On the other hand, the master would be unfair if he severely punished the servant who did not know what his master’s expectations of him were and he did something wrong. A fair master would show him lenience and give him a lighter punishment.

What Jesus tells Peter has bearing on how we deal with other people, both children and adults. If we fail to communicate our expectations and boundaries clearly to someone, it is wrong or unreasonable for us to treat them harshly if they do not meet our expectations or overstep our boundaries. Like the servant who did not know and did something wrong, we should treat them with leniency. We should make allowances for them, and we should forgive their failings, two things that Jesus also taught his disciples.

The principle that Jesus is teaching in this passage fits with what he says about the mercifulness of God. God is not only kind and forgiving, but God is also just. God is fair. It is a quality of God’s character that we should imitate as his children along with his kindness and his willingness to forgive.

A passage from the Book of the Prophet Micah comes to mind.

"No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good,
and this is what he requires of you:
to do what is right, to love mercy,
and to walk humbly with your God."


Doing what is right means being just in our dealings with others, treating them with fairness. We do not allow our personal opinion of them influence our judgment. We are objective. We do not exaggerate their faults and weaknesses in our mind or in conversations with them or anyone else. We do not minimize or ignore their positive qualities. We choose to believe something good about them, rather than bad, when we have the possibility of doing either.

We clearly communicate to them expectations and boundaries from the very beginning, and we do not spring expectations and boundaries on them and then take them to task for not meeting these expectations and respecting these boundaries.

We do not assume that they know what is in our mind.

If the situation requires it, we put expectations and boundaries in writing. We do not wait until the person has not met expectations and overstepped boundaries to do that.

We make sure expectations and boundaries are reasonable. They are based on good judgment and are fair and practical. They are suitable to the situation, are realistic, and are within an individual’s ability to achieve or to maintain. They take into consideration an individual’s strengths and limitations.

Expectations often fail and boundaries do not work because they do not meet these criteria. They are also not reached by mutual agreement.

When someone does not meet an expectation or oversteps a boundary, one that we have clearly communicated to them, we do not overreact to what they did. We do not treat the situation as much worse or much more serious than it is, and we consider extenuating circumstances. We do not impose upon them negative consequences that are out of proportion to what they have done.

Jesus concludes his answer to Peter’s question with these words, “When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.

Among the things with which we have been given, with which we have been entrusted, is what Jesus taught and what Jesus practiced. Jesus did not give us his teaching and set an example for us, entrust to us those principles by which he expected his disciples to live and modeled those principles for us so that we could admire his teaching and example and then ignore them. If we do that, we are no better than the faithless servant who knew what his master wanted from him, but who instead of following his master’s instructions beat his fellow servants, partied, and got drunk. We cannot expect to be treated any more than the faithless servant that we are.

As difficult as it may be, we are expected to live according to Jesus’ teaching and example and to walk as true disciples in the way of Jesus. Recognizing our weakness, God gives us an abundant supply of grace, the power of the Holy Spirit working in our lives, to do that. Jesus’ expectations of us are not unreasonable. We have God himself in the person of the Holy Spirit as our helper. But we must choose to cooperate with God’s grace, to respond to the gentle nudging of the Holy Spirit.

Being just means not letting our feelings affect our judgment so that we judge a situation wrongly. It means heeding James the Just’s words and not showing partiality. As Jesus himself pointed to the attention of his disciples and those who flocked to hear him, God sends rain to even the wicked and the ungrateful. It also means trying to understand someone else’s feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in that person’s situation.

We imagine what our child feels when we demand that they do something that they are unable to do, or we become angry and upset with them because they were unable to read our mind and to know what we wanted them to do.

We imagine how our spouse feels when we blow our top for the umpteenth time when our spouse has agreed to wash the dishes and we come home from work and find a sink full of dirty dishes, having failed to communicate to our spouse that washing the dishes in our mind means an empty sink when we get home from work. It is not that our spouse has not been washing the dishes, but the sink has not been empty when we got home. We did not make our expectation clear.

We imagine how a coworker feels when we get on their case for not doing several things that we were expecting them to do but did not communicate these expectations to them.

We cannot say, “They should’ve known!” If we do not tell them and make sure that they clearly understand what we are saying, we cannot expect them to know.

An older sibling cannot complain if a younger sibling goes in their room and plays games on their computer unless they or their parents have expressly forbidden that younger sibling to play games on their computer. A parent cannot punish a child for past violations of a rule that they have just made or give the child negative consequences for a rule that they have not warned a child against breaking. Such actions are unfair to say the least, even cruel. 

Those whom Jesus calls to be his disciples, he calls not only to seek justice for others but also to be just themselves. This is particularly true for those whom he calls to a teaching role in his Church. They must embody his teaching and example. As those to whom much is given and much is entrusted, they will be held to a stricter accounting. When Jesus talked about not being too harsh in our judgment of others, not treating minor faults and weaknesses as major ones and small offenses as large ones, and not saying someone did something bad or wrong when they did not, he is talking about being just, about being fair.

It is not always easy to be just, to be fair. We are faced with many temptations that may keep us from doing what is right or reasonable. We may not recognize our failings in this area of our life.


Jesus in his teaching and example has clearly communicated to us the expectation that we are to be just as his disciples as well as kind and forgiving. God is just in his dealings with us and we in turn are to be just in our dealings with others.

Being just in not some exalted ideal to which we aspire. It is something that we are expected to be daily in the nitty-gritty of life. If we consider the kind of fruit that the Holy Spirit produces in our lives—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, they are the qualities of character that we need to be just.

Being just is as much a part of being a disciple of Jesus as loving God and loving others. Indeed, it is difficult to see how we can love God and love others without acting in a manner that is just, or fair, toward others. If we love God, we will obey him and act justly. We will imitate God. If we love others, we will treat them fairly. We will not treat them unjustly.

Silence

AFFIRMATION OF FAITH

Open this link to hear Ryan Flanigan’s setting of the Apostles Creed.

I believe in God, the Father Almighty, creator of heaven and earth
I believe in Jesus Christ, his only son, our Lord
He was conceived by the power of the Holy Spirit
And born of the virgin Mary


He suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died, and was buried
He descended to the dead, on the third day he rose again
He ascended into heaven, and is seen at the right hand of the father
He will come again to judge the living and the dead


I believe in the Holy Spirit, the holy catholic Church
The communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins
The resurrection of the body and the life everlasting
Amen


SONG OF PRAISE

Open this link in a new tab to hear Stuart Townend’s “My Soul Will Magnify.”

My soul will magnify the Lord
I rejoice in God, my Savior
In the wonder of His favor
For He has done great things for me
He was mindful of His servant
Every age shall call be blessed
The hope of Abraham come
In the giving of the Son
For He who promised is mighty
In remembering His mercy

My soul will magnify the Lord
For His grace to those who fear Him
Through every generation
The proud He scatters to the wind
As the ruler's strength is broken
And the rich are left with nothing
The humble lifted high
And the hungry satisfied
Our portion and our treasure
Our hope and help forever

My soul will magnify the Lord
I rejoice in God, my Savior
In the wonder of His favor

PRAYERS OF THE PEOPLE

During the silence that follows each bidding, the congregation may pray aloud or silently for each concern or need

To our Father in heaven
let us make our requests with thanksgiving,
through our only mediator,
Jesus Christ the Son.

I ask your prayers for peace in the life of the world ...
Pray for God's peace.

Silence

I ask your prayers for all who suffer injury, sickness and loss ...
Pray for all who are afflicted. 

Silence

I ask your prayers for all who wield authority and influence ...
Pray for all who exercise power.

Silence

I ask your prayers for all whom we have wronged ...
Pray for all who hate us.

Silence

I ask your prayers for our bishop(s) ...
and for all whom Christ has appointed to his service ...
Pray for God's people.

Silence

I ask your prayers for ...

During the silence members of the congregation may ask the prayers of the congregation for specific concerns and needs

Silence

Give thanks to God for all
in whom Christ has been honoured,
(especially ... )

Silence

O God, whose will it is
that all should find salvation
and come to know the truth:
receive the prayers and petitions
which we offer in faith and love;
through him who gave proof of your purpose,
and who sacrificed himself
to win freedom for all humankind,
Jesus Christ our Lord.
Amen.

The Collect

Almighty and everlasting God,
by your Spirit the whole body of the Church
is governed and sanctified;
hear the prayers we offer
for all your faithful people
that in the ministry to which you have called us
we may serve you in holiness and truth;
through our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ
Amen.

RESPONSE

Open this link in a new tab to hear Steve Angrisano’ s setting of “Lord have mercy.

Lord have mercy
Lord have mercy

Christ have mercy
Christ have mercy

Lord have mercy
Lord have mercy

THE LORD’S PRAYER

The Lord be with you.
The Lord bless you.

As our Saviour taught his disciples,
we pray:

Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come;
thy will be done;
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation;
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
the power, and the glory
for ever and ever.
Amen.


BLESSING

The blessing of God,
the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit,
remain with us always. Amen.

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